“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight” (I Peter3:3-4).
In a world full of temptation, for a man, a girl dressing to provoke SEXUAL temptation is too hard to resist. Talking from a man’s perspective, I honestly can testify the battle that rages within a man who tries to overcome temptation — that is if a man still fighting the temptation!
It is really not a great surprise that those women who dress with a poverty of fabric are popular in schools, clubs, offices, and other public places. Who would not turn their heads as a sexy woman walks down the street?
At first glance, this might not be a big deal for many and even for the women herself. But is it really harmless? Does the society have gone too far to accept this as a part of the social norm? Has our conscience become so numb and seared with a hot iron that we let this type of thinking permeate the fabric of our civilization?
Everywhere we go, we find pictures of semi-nude ladies posing and being proud of their body. We find them on the Internet, billboards, books, magazines, television programs, advertisements, beauty pageants, and the list just goes on and on. They go with the popular if-you-have-it-flaunt-it belief. This society glorifies beauty that is only skin deep and not appreciating the real beauty that NEVER fades away.
And we come to face the hard facts and statistics that PLAGUE our society.
We wonder WHY we have more women being raped!
We wonder WHY more marriages are ending in divorce!
We wonder WHY more women become less confident and inferior!
We wonder WHY this society is heading in the wrong direction! If we are really getting brighter and more intelligent, we still fall short in solving most elementary problems. Instead of solving them, we even make things worse!
If we are really getting brighter and more intelligent, we still fall short in solving most simple problems. Instead of solving them, we even make things worse!
What happens inside a man’s brain?
Let’s face it: we, men, are VISUAL CREATURES. We are ignited with what we see. While most women might not be visual oriented, they must never think that we are wired the same way as they do. We have internal processes that are 180 degrees opposite to women.
When we see a girl with a part of her breasts peeking and a part of her upper legs showing, from men who aged 13 years old to 85, we find it hard to PREVENT our heads from turning.
Fashion designers know this and they tend to capitalize on what seems good to them and not really what’s good for men.
Is it really that bad?
If you are a woman who believes in the word of God, the answer is obvious: it is exponentially bad.
Immodest dress is complete SELFISHNESS. Dressing less than what you should is the failure to recognize the weakness of us men.
If you continue to dress any way you like, you are attracting not only that cute boy next door but also that old man across the street! Aside from being selfish, this is a SIN. Dressing to get attention from other people and thinking that it is our problem and not yours is really a bad mindset and deception.
You are given that beautiful body from God and you have the responsibility to use it according to God’s intention. Dressing sexually makes you a stumbling block to others, and you know what Jesus said about being a stumbling block?
“But if anyone causes one of these little ones (those who are weak in faith) who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a large millstone hung round his neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea” (Matthew 18:6).
Jesus later adds, “But WOE to the one by whom the temptation comes” (Matthew 18:7)!
The plain truth; Jesus is very SERIOUS when it comes to being a stumbling block and causing others to sin. That is how serious your choice of dress is!
Additional negative effects of immodesty
If you dress immodestly, you will surely draw attention from other people. You create a sexually charged environment around you. You send the message to all the men that you are up for grabs. You give them the permission to treat you SEXUALLY and give them the go signal for sexual pursuit.
DRESS SEXUALLY, and you will be dealt with sexually. Plain and simple.
So when we see too much flesh, we take that as an invitation — an invitation to look at you like a piece of meat. Something that we can look, touch, and take home to enjoy. I am sure you do not like that.
IMMODESTY BREEDS DISRESPECT.
Do you want men to love you just because of your appearance and not who you really are? Because I am sure, by the time you reach past thirty or even have children, you will not look the same way as you are in your sweet sixteen.
Choose someone who will love you because of your inner beauty and not just because of what you can offer them physically.
So what should you do?
The answer is clear; you need to make sure you dress according to God’s standard.
When you choose which dress to buy and wear, choose the dress that will HONOR God your creator. When you try to follow the advice from the Bible, you make an 180 degrees turn from being selfish to being someone who “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility considering others better than herself” (Phil. 2:3, paraphrased).
Remember the words of the Apostle Peter: “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight” (I Peter3:3-4).
When you have that mindset, you begin to be more concerned about the people around you rather than being self-centered and wanting to have attention drawn to you.
So please, let’s make this a better world, ladies. Be the right woman that will attract the right man. This can be achieved through dressing appropriately and living according to God’s standard.
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