In this post, let me share with you some of the best qualities that every relationship and marriage should have!
It’s no secret that a lot of marriages end up in divorce and other relationships break up. It seems that many married couples would like to have a long-lasting and strong relationship, but to no avail, they still get separated.
So, if you are among those people who are trying to keep your relationship strong and solid, you might wonder, what could be the qualities that you should have to ensure your love would last your lifetime?
Thankfully, I’m here to share with you the seven qualities of rock-solid relationships. So, don’t miss this blog and start reading below.
Quality no. 1: Couples share the same core beliefs
When couples agree on their core beliefs, they become more in tune with one another. In fact, when couples have different religious backgrounds, ethnic groups, or cultural ancestry, there’s a higher chance of conflict.
Now, I’m not saying that people of different backgrounds won’t have a successful relationship, but there’s a greater challenge in achieving harmony.
Couples who have the same vision, mission, and core beliefs for their relationship have a better way of overcoming obstacles.
That’s why, in one of my blogs, I highly encourage single men and women to find a spouse of the same faith.
As the Bible tells us:
“Do not try to work together as equals with unbelievers, for it cannot be done. How can right and wrong be partners? How can light and darkness live together? How can Christ and the Devil agree? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?” (II Corinthians 6:14-15, GNB).
Quality 2: Couples know how to deal with conflicts
Conflicts in a relationship are not a matter of if, but it’s a matter of when. There’s no perfect relationship and conflict will surely arise sooner and later —- whether you like it or not.
Now, what you do when conflict arises makes the biggest difference?
When dealing with conflict, it is super important to set aside pride. Not only that, but it is a must that you look for solutions and not dwell on the problem for too long.
Here’s a biblical guideline you should remember every time you deal with conflicts:
31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you (Ephesians 4:31-32).
Quality 3: Couples think and act like a team
Teamwork is not only needed in games, but also in marital relationships. When couples think like a team, they start to work as a team.
As a team, when the wife gets hurt, the husband gets hurt too. The problem of the husband is also a problem of the wife. What’s important for one is also important for the other.
To get a better understanding of what true teamwork should be, read II Corinthians 12:12-31. While this passage talks about the Body of Christ, the same principles can be applied in the married life.
Just to quote a portion of the passage, let me share I Corinthians 12:25-26:
25 That there should be no schism in the body, but that the members should have the same care for one another. 26 And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; or if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it.
Now, that’s what teamwork is all about!
Quality no. 4: Couples are friends
You might have heard the saying, “marry your best friend.” Well, based on 2014 research, couples become more committed in their relationship when they feel their spouse is their best friend. After all, it is not surprising to hear how some people who seek divorce would characterize their spouse as their enemy, not friends.
Proverbs 27:17 tells us:
As iron sharpens iron,
So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.
As you can see, a relationship would better work if you have your spouse as your friend.
Quality no. 5: Couples choose to be positive
If couples are naturally optimistic, it is easier for them to engage in positive problem-solving strategies instead of getting depressed and hopeless.
One advantage of couples who follow the teachings of the Bible is that they become more positive in their approach to solving problems. For examples, the Bible says that we must produce the fruit of the Holy Spirit:
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law (Galatians 5:22-23).
When couples aim to develop the fruit of the Holy Spirit such as love, joy, and peace, their relationship inevitably becomes stronger and more solid.
Quality no. 6: Couples enjoy being together
Marriage should not be about enduring each other’s company but enjoying each other’s company. You might think that this point is a common practice, but it is not. There are some couples who would rather do something else during their free time.
A husband might enjoy playing basketball instead. A wife might rather want to go shopping. When couples try to like and enjoy what their spouse enjoys, they are actually becoming more in tune with their partners.
In short, couples who enjoy being together, doing something together, and talking together, stay close and intimate with each other.
When you try to like what your partner likes, it means you love your partner so much that you are willing to do something together and even learn something you don’t ordinarily enjoy.
Quality no. 7: Couples have a God-centered relationship
When it comes to having a successful relationship, it would NOT just be about you or your spouse, but it is about what God wants your relationship to be like.
When we make God the center of our relationship, we ask for His blessings, grace, and guidance. We are not of our own anymore, but we are looking to God for wisdom and help.
While most people think that the Bible is an old-fashioned book that isn’t relevant to our modern age, those who seek God’s wisdom through His written words make a powerful discovery that maintaining a relationship in God’s way is still the BEST way!
Remember, it is God who instituted marriage and if there’s one Being who knows how to make marriages work, it would be the Most High.
There you have it, the 7 qualities of rock-solid relationships. This is just actually an overview of what you should have in a loving marriage.
However, if you wish to learn more, you can read some books about marriage. I have written, “The 20 Best Christian Books on Marriage You Should Read Next.”
In this blog, I have listed some of the best Christian books on marriage that will surely help you build a stronger relationship. So, feel free to open the link I just gave and explore our comprehensive list.