Did you know that there are certain habits that can make you unthankful? Yes, you heard that right. If you are not careful, you can become ungrateful for the blessings that you have received especially when you keep the deadly habits I’m about to share with you. Now, this is a hugely significant subject. Why? Because ungratefulness does not only harm you physically, but also emotionally, socially, and most importantly, spiritually.
Today, I’m going to talk about the 10 habits of unthankful people. Now, you might ask, “Why should we know these unthankful habits? Should we learn thankful habits instead?” Well, the truth is that learning involves knowing the negative side of a subject. For you to better appreciate how to be thankful, you should also know how to be unthankful. By doing so, you’ll be better equipped to avoid the bad habits that lead to ungratefulness.
So, what are these habits of unthankful people? Here they are:
No. 1: Not saying thank you
Unthankful individuals often neglect to express gratitude for the kindness or assistance they receive, undermining the importance of acknowledging others. An example is when someone holds the door open for an unthankful person, but walks through without acknowledging the gesture or saying thank you.
No. 2: Always complaining
There are just so many reasons to be thankful. However, always whining and complaining will make you blind off them.
Constantly finding fault or expressing dissatisfaction without appreciating the positive aspects of a situation is a common habit among unthankful people. An example is when despite being on a beautiful vacation, an unthankful person complains about the weather, the food, and the accommodations instead of appreciating the overall experience.
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No. 3: Taking things for granted
Taking things for granted means failing to recognize or value the positive things in life simply because they have always been there. Things like flowing water, electricity, and our good health — these things can easily be taken for granted. One good example is when you overlook the love and care your spouse gives you simply because you know they will always be there for you.
No. 4: Always dissatisfied
Regardless of circumstances, unthankful individuals are perpetually discontent, focusing on what they lack rather than appreciating what they have. An example is even after achieving a significant personal or professional milestone, an unthankful person remains dissatisfied, focusing on what they haven’t accomplished rather than celebrating their successes. Unsatisfied people tried to set new goals, thinking that they will finally be satisfied but when they achieve those goals, the happiness is short-lived and they look for new things in life.
No. 5: Feeling self-entitled
Unthankful people often have a sense of entitlement, expecting things to be handed to them without recognizing the efforts or contributions of others. We feel entitled when we feel that we deserve something even in reality, we did little or nothing to receive it. For example, we may think that our parents should give us all the things that we need simply because we are their children.
No. 6: Focusing on the negative
Instead of emphasizing the positive aspects of a situation, unthankful individuals tend to fixate on the negative elements, perpetuating a pessimistic outlook. Instead of appreciating a well-prepared meal, an unthankful person dwells on a minor flaw in the presentation or taste, overshadowing the overall positive dining experience. That’s the danger of focusing too much on the negative. You begin to minimize the positive things in your life.
No. 7: Comparing yourself to others
Unthankful individuals often measure their own success or happiness against that of others, leading to feelings of inadequacy and a lack of gratitude for their own accomplishments. An unthankful individual constantly compares their career progress to that of their peers, feeling resentful and ungrateful for their own accomplishments. The problem with the comparing game is that you will never win. If you think you’re better than others, it will make you proud. If you find yourself worse than others, you become envious.
No. 8: Having a victim mentality
If you see yourself as a perpetual victim, this will prevent you from acknowledging the positive aspects of your life. More often than not, a victim mentality starts with a feeling of self-pity. You try to express sadness to gain attention on yourself. Instead of taking responsibility for your actions, you blame external factors for your challenges, preventing you from appreciating opportunities for personal growth.
No. 9: Keeping a record of wrong
Unthankful individuals may hold onto grievances, keeping a mental or actual record of perceived wrongs, which can hinder the ability to appreciate the positive aspects of relationships or situations. In a relationship, an unthankful partner continually brings up past mistakes and holds onto grudges, making it difficult to appreciate positive moments in the present.
No. 10: Being materialistic
Prioritizing material possessions over experiences or relationships can lead to a lack of gratitude for non-material aspects of life, contributing to an unthankful mindset. An unthankful person, despite having a comfortable home and supportive relationships, constantly craves the latest gadgets and fashion trends, neglecting the non-material aspects that bring fulfilment and joy.
These are the 10 habits of unthankful people. As you can see, you probably have not realized it but we are guilty of this. Sometimes, we become unthankful without us even knowing it! Personally, I thought I was somewhat of a decently grateful person, but when I was preparing this list, I realized I had a lot of things to improve.
How to be thankful?
Now, that we know how to be unthankful, how can we reverse this process? How can we avoid all these causes of unthankfulness? There are plenty of ways. However, instead of going through each of these issues and giving you a list of solutions, let me just give you one powerful and effective answer.
So, what is this solution? Here’s the answer found in 1 Chronicles 16:34-35:
34 Oh, give thanks to the LORD, for He is good!
For His mercy endures forever.35 And say, “Save us, O God of our salvation;
Gather us together, and deliver us from the Gentiles,
To give thanks to Your holy name,
To triumph in Your praise.”
In verse 34, we are instructed to give thanks to Yahweh and what was the reason given? For He is good! You see, friends, this is actually revolutionary. This should dramatically revolutionalize the way we see life. When you truly know and understand that God is good, it inevitably leads to gratefulness.
Remember the goodness of God
If you know that God is good, then you will say thank you more often. If you know that God is good, you won’t be complaining that much anymore. If you know that God is good, you will not take things for granted, you will be more satisfied in life, you won’t feel entitled, you will focus more on the positive, and so on.
We read in Romans 2:4:
Or do you despise the riches of His goodness, forbearance, and longsuffering, not knowing that the goodness of God leads you to repentance?
Did you see that, if it weren’t for God’s goodness, we would have all been dead in our sins forever? However, because God is good, He gives us the opportunity to repent and change our wicked ways.
We go through various trials in life, yet, we are instructed to be thankful. Why? Because we may never understand why things are happening, we can be sure that God is working all things for good as we read in Romans 8:28. God is not against us, but He is for us. Even for that simple truth, we can be tremendously grateful.
Be thankful!
So, how can you get rid of the 10 habits of unthankfulness we discussed? Remember God’s goodness in your life and you will surely become more thankful.
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That’s it for me. Again, I’m Joshua Infantado of Becoming Christians Academy, praying that God will bless us with His love, truth, and grace. See you next time!
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