Child-rearing can be a controversial and big topic. There is much practical advice that you can glean from the book of Proverbs. Solomon, with God’s help, is considered to be the wisest man on Earth during his time and he wrote these proverbs. There’s no doubt that the Bible is an authority on child-rearing. In this blog, let me share with you at least 7 passages from the book of Proverbs about child-rearing.
“Whoever does not discipline his son hates him, but whoever loves him is diligent to correct him” (Proverbs 13:24).
God equates discipline with loving. Even God Himself chastens whom he loves (Hebrews 12:6). This means that child-rearing is the primary role of the parents and should not be delegated to other people. Parents should be DILIGENT in correcting their child. Discipline is not a one-time event, but rather a continuous and habitually process.
Discipline your son while there is still hope—but don’t set your heart on his destruction (Proverbs 19:18).
There will come a time when disciplining a child can be very difficult or worse, impossible. This means that when a wrong behavior is seen, then it should immediately be addressed. Waiting too long can let the habit take its root on the child’s inner being. When you fail to guide your child in the right direction, it is the same as setting your heart on his destruction. Without discipline, your child is on the surest way towards destruction.
The righteous person lives a life of integrity; happy are his children who follow him (Proverbs 20:7)!
There’s no doubt that the example of the parents plays a vital role in child-rearing. Parents can’t teach something while he is doing the opposite. Parents can’t effectively teach their children not to smoke while puffing on a cigar.
Integrity includes telling the truth. If you promise your child something, be SURE to follow through. Thus, you need to be careful with what you say to your child. If you say you will spank them after giving a warning, make SURE that you really spank them. Failure to do so makes them doubt your integrity.
Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right (Proverbs 20:11).
Though a child, you can already see his or her dispositions and tendencies. What the child does can be a living prophecy of what he or she will do in the future. Parents should not assume that a bad behavior will change as they grow up unless it is corrected.
Children are also capable of doing the right thing. When the child does a good thing, it is imperative for the parents to praise and notice their right actions. This will reinforce in their minds that a particular right behavior brings positive effects. Constantly just concentrating on the negative actions of your child will lead to remorse and lack of self-confidence.
Train a child in the way appropriate for him, and when he becomes older, he will not turn from it (Proverbs 22:6).
A person is only a child once in his or her lifetime. Once that time period is gone, then it will be gone forever. A child is like quick-drying cement. It can only be molded while it is wet. The longer you wait, the harder it gets. The formative years of a child are really crucial. Thus, it is only wise to discipline a child while his mind is still receptive to corrections and behavioral modification.
Don’t withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with a rod, he won’t die. Punish him with a rod, and you will rescue his soul from Sheol (Proverbs 23:13-14).
While modern thinkers might disagree, the Bible encourages corporal punishment. However, this should not lead to child abuse or physical damage. According to the Bible, physical discipline must be coupled with restraint and the parent should not do it out of anger or frustration. It should be done with love.
The rod and rebuke bestow wisdom, but an undisciplined child brings shame to his mother (Proverbs 29:15).
There’s no doubt, disciplining a child bestows wisdom. An undisciplined child is more likely to grow rebellious, have no respect for the authority, and even become a problem to the society. Corporal punishment should also not be purely about physical spanking. It should be coupled with love and care. It is vital that along with spanking is the explanation why the child receives such punishment. This will enable the child to have the wisdom and understanding the rod and rebuke produce.
There are a lot of books written about child-rearing. However, we need to remember that the foundation of knowledge and wisdom is still the Bible. It is the ultimate authority on how to live this life to the fullest, including how to rear a child. So keep in mind these verses along with other scriptural references when dealing with your child. Don’t forget to pray to God that He gives you the wisdom to do it the right way.
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